Tuesday, November 19, 2013


I got my lists
My grocery list
My lists of names
My guest lists
My lists of games
But my favorite list
Is pretty long
It’s a list about you
And all your wrong.
       Pensacola Helene

Rite and Rong got married and like any other couple they had their share of arguments and offenses. Rong began to notice after a year Rite was keeping a list of his wrongs. One particular thing on the list was the piece of china her grandmother gave her and Rong had dropped it one day by accident. In the second year of marriage Rite actually bought the lists out in the middle of the argument and by that time it was four pages long.

In year six of marriage, she had over a chapter and a half of Rong’s wrongs and the china was still on it. Rong felt pretty bad when he heard all the wrong things he’d done to his wife over the years, but he couldn’t undo many of them. So he apologized, asked for forgiveness, tried to improve, and even had the china repaired, but to no avail.  Rite’s list lived on. Even though Rong apologized for the china and even tried to fix it; Rite felt it was still broken.

However, by the tenth year of marriage, Rong started his own list. He couldn’t wait until their next really big argument. When the day finally came, Rong pulled out his list right along with Rite’s. Every one of his wrongs Rite quoted from her list; he’d quote one from his list. This argument went on for a while, but with every word it changed Rite and Rong into two distance shores. The love they once shared seem to disappear into their lists of wrongs.

Rite was really impacted by the fact that Rong was now keeping a list. It felt bad to hear all her wrongs thrown up in her face like that, but she had done that to Rong for years. Rong had tried to tell her many times that Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs.  He even showed it to her in the bible and she had heard it at church as well. She missed Rong, but her list had become the ocean between them. How could Rite have been so wrong and Rong so right?

Rite went to Rong with her list, but this time she burned it in the fireplace and she asked Rong was he willing to do the same. Rong shook his head and she looked perplexed. Rong then handed her his list, there was nothing on it. Rite looked confused. “I couldn’t do it, Rite. I love you too much and the love I have for you is enough to cover all your wrongs.”

Rite and Rong lived happily ever after. They learned that nobody is right all the time and wrong is not meant to be kept on a list. And when someone breaks your china and apologizes; the china is still broken. And no matter how carefully they may try to put it back together, it won’t be perfect. Only God can heal completely and we must always give our broken china to God to heal.

No matter how hard we try, we mess up with the ones we love. We do wrong. But don’t start a list or record of that wrong. Instead, forgive others in the same way you want them to forgive you. Right and wrong swings both ways in all relationships. Wrong comes along, taps you on the shoulder and says, “Tag you’re it!!”

 Will you be Rite or Rong?

Pensacola Helene