A big relationship faux pas is thinking that men have no
emotional investment in their relationships with women. According to research the emotional
ability of men and women are the same, but how they express them is different. The
Good Book directs both men and women to love each other and thus he gave them
what they needed to carry it out: emotions and choice. Men “having” emotions may
not be the issue as much as feeling emotionally safe with someone enough to
trust them with those emotions.
Trusting
someone with your emotions is built over a period of time. Being emotionally
safe with someone has nothing to do with being a man or a woman; as much as it
has to do with one person trusting another person with something as precious as
their deepest emotions. Emotions are like precious treasures and should be
shared with someone who will value them as you do. A man or woman will gladly
and without effort open their hearts to a person they feel is SAFE.
Society has
a tendency to think that men are different emotionally than women, but they are
only different in expression, not in the level or depth in which they are able to
love, to feel, or experience deep emotions. Their hearts and emotions are at
risk just like a woman's when they become emotionally involved. Every man is
not emotionally dangerous and every
woman is not emotionally safe. If you
want your man or woman to open up to you, you must ask yourself: AM I SAFE? CAN
I BE TRUSTED WITH ANOTHER PERSON"S DEEPEST EMOTIONS?
Men are
often trapped by the stereotypes that society has placed on them. Yes, they are
physically different, but men are often treated emotionally unfair because of
their group membership. And yes their emotional expression is different; just
as a woman’s logical expression is different, but it doesn’t mean men do not
have emotions or women do not have logic. Don’t prejudge a man’s emotional
ability just because he’s a man, but try to understand emotional expression
from his point of view and experiences.
Even a super
masculine man and a super feminine woman
can discover that emotionally they can meet each other in a place where they
both feel equally SAFE expressing their love to each other. One man said: "There
is nothing greater than being able to lay your emotions safely inside the heart
of the one you love."
Pensacola Helene
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